If a woman you knew showed up at work with a fat lip and a cut eyebrow; would you ask them about it?
Because zero people have commented on what I think are reasonably obvious injuries.
There are people who know I play rugby, but there are lots I've engaged with today who don't.
I'm really surprised that nobody has said anything. This is how DV thrives; when nobody checks in on their colleagues and friends.
Obviously it's not just women; anyone can be a victim of an abusive relationship. If you're at all concerned, speak up.
I've just fucking walked into a lat pulldown bar so fully expect to have a bruised cheekbone tomorrow. Clumsy arse.
You'll be delighted to know I managed to do this a second time (same bar, same height, same workout)
There are honestly days when my proprioception and spatial awareness just abandon me.
Update: my injuries came up in a convo with a male colleague.
Him: Oh I noticed that but didn't want to say anything
Me: I could be being abused though
Him: yeah but it's you, isn't it? Not likely.
And that is *exactly* why you should always say something. Don't ever assume.